Paralyzing Fear Stopping You In Your Tracks? The Key To Moving Forward When Nothing Else Works

I was surfing a friend’s Facebook page when I came upon an article titled, “How To Never Let Fear Hold You Back Again.” Even though I had found similar titles while scrolling Google, I decided to see if the writer had anything fresh and new to share.

I read the article. It was good if on a scale from 1 to 10, your fear was around a 5. But if it was a 10, with 10 being overwhelmingly paralyzing, the article fell short.

Because of this, I endeavored to dig a little deeper. I started with the word FEAR. I almost went straight to Google to find some nifty acronym that I could play with, but what came out of me was more spot on. It was Focus. Energy. At. Reward.

You see, I had read the book, Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway (the 2002 version) by Susan Jeffers years ago. And while it gave me the chutzpah to go against the grain of my Adult Child of An Alcoholic programming, it didn’t address what confronted me later. The Chesapeake Bay Bridge in Virginia.

Now for you who have never had the pleasure of driving across this bridge, let me describe my encounter. I was happily driving along, with my mom in the front seat and my teenage son in the back. We were traveling to Virginia to spend Christmas Day with my nephew and his wife. We were laughing and talking as we flowed with traffic up the incline of the bridge. And then, with no warning, there was a sharp drop, so sharp that it looked like we were in a nosedive. It looked as if we were going to fall right into the ominous water below. I was terrified!

I’m happy to report that I made it without having a heart attack, soiling my clothes or having a full blown panic attack. Just the same, the thought of having to drive back across that bridge to get home was torment. So, even though the article had some great ideas for overcoming fear, i.e., feel the fear and do it anyway and change your personal philosophy on failure, two points the author makes in his article, when confronted with the Chesapeake Bay Bridges of life, of relationships and of business, you need a tad bit more to chew on.

That’s when I reached into my experience and pulled out this key. If the reward in front of you is not compelling enough to override the fear, you can’t move forward. One has to find that thing, that overriding thing, that has enough torque to propel you, enough magnetism to draw you and enough glue to hold you.

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